I met a great guy I went on a few dates with and broke up with due to lack of chemistry.
He treated me like a princess though, was a great listener, very supportive and he owns his own realestate agency so he is quite successful.
The thought of sleeping with him was a bit of a turn off but we had a talk where i told him some things that were going on in my life and he was so nice about it. I told him i was really depressed and he said he would meet me for coffee every night after work if it was going to mean i wouldnt harm myself.
I felt like i could totally trust him.
Not 100% attracted to him which is why i broke it off but he thinks i’m great.
Should i tell him how i feel or ask for another chance?
Haha ‘I hate fish but i will eat fish for dinner forever’
I do meet guys I’m physically attracted to but they don’t treat me half as well. I feel safe with him and i really trust him – and its hard to find that
Let me tell you from experience that if you have NO attraction to him, it will not work. I dated a guy for 2 years (also very successful in his business, and he adored me) but, I just never desired him.
After some time sex became a huge issue between us because he always wanted it and I never did.
I never fantasized about him or anything. heck I didn’t even want to kiss him.
So……I started thinking it just wasn’t fair to either of us. He needed to be with a woman who loved AND desired him. And I needed to be with someone I had those feeling for too.
Trust me, it won’t work.
You have to have the Whole package…don’t settle for less.
February 4th, 2010 at 8:08 am
It depends, do you want to end up with mr. safe who you could have a nice quiet and contented life with but have a relatiobnship like that of friends.
Or to you not settle, but find the guy that makes your heart sing whenever you hear his voice and keeps you on your toes (in a good way) for the rest of your life.
Your choice…
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February 4th, 2010 at 8:16 am
nah, he sounds like a better friend
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February 4th, 2010 at 8:30 am
Love is a choice. Love has nothing to do with ones outward appearance. Looks only affect lust and the ‘in love’ feeling.
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February 4th, 2010 at 9:18 am
Attraction is either there or it isn’t. If you’ve known him for a while and still don’t have feelings for him except as a friend, you probably won’t. But you have to decide what’s important for you in a relationship. Some people end up marrying their best friend. Others need someone they can have great sex with. Others just end up with people because of money.
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February 4th, 2010 at 9:53 am
Why would you ever date someone your not sexually attracted to????????
Thats like saying … hmmm…. I hate Fish…. I think I will have Fish for dinner… FOREVER!!!!!!!!!
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February 4th, 2010 at 10:13 am
If it aint there . . . it aint there . . . .
Find the one who it is ALL there . . . .chemistry, friendship, great sex.
Good luck . . .
Dan in Miami
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February 4th, 2010 at 10:53 am
nope. peopel will say yes but why? cantu find someone u r attacted to
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February 4th, 2010 at 11:00 am
I once dated a lady that I wasn’t really attracted to. As time went on though I became more attracted to her. It can be a real turn on to know that someone is totally into being with me and loving me. We eventually broke up but it was over a different issue. I was very fond of her before we split.
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February 4th, 2010 at 11:05 am
There’s an old quote hun…..men fall in love with women they’re attracted to, women are become more attracted to the men they love….
It’s true – if he’s really that amazing person….try it out – you may find that becomes the most handsome man ever hehe
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February 4th, 2010 at 11:36 am
how the hell should i know, this is like a yes or no answer, so no, hell no, helllll no, also watch out for bigfoot
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February 4th, 2010 at 12:19 pm
He seems like a lovely bloke but if there is no chemistry there then maybe he is nothing more than a good friend.
I think you should tell him how you feel, he seems like he would totally understand from what you have said.
Good luck
x
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February 4th, 2010 at 12:44 pm
It sounds like he wants to be a good friend and maybe he too bneeds that time to get out and relax. I think it would be good for both of you to continue having the time together to just talk as you have been doing. Sometimes people need people without sex or love being involved. If it grows into more later on then that is up to both of you. If not, then at least you know you have a good friend that you can trust and talk to.
If you want a relationship with someone it is best to be friends first. It would be such a waste to spend your life with someone you don’t even like. I was friends with my husband for 10 years. We dated and broke up. But now we are each others best friend and we have been married for 30 years.
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February 4th, 2010 at 1:23 pm
He sounds like a really nice guy…But If you dont really like him then you have to let him now
The longer you stall, the harder it will get to stop dating him.
But think about it, there arent many guys as nice as that. If he isnt attractive- Give him a new make-over.
If you are still not satisfied then I suggest you break it off immediately but try not to be choosy
Hope this helps~
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February 4th, 2010 at 2:08 pm
Let me tell you from experience that if you have NO attraction to him, it will not work. I dated a guy for 2 years (also very successful in his business, and he adored me) but, I just never desired him.
After some time sex became a huge issue between us because he always wanted it and I never did.
I never fantasized about him or anything. heck I didn’t even want to kiss him.
So……I started thinking it just wasn’t fair to either of us. He needed to be with a woman who loved AND desired him. And I needed to be with someone I had those feeling for too.
Trust me, it won’t work.
You have to have the Whole package…don’t settle for less.
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February 4th, 2010 at 2:47 pm
He sounds like a great friend, but if you don’t feel that "click", then I don’t think it’s fair to date him. You might find that he grows on you after a while, but I wouldn’t go for it if you don’t have any chemsitry with him at all.
Think of it this way — how would you feel if a guy you were dating wasn’t attracted to you?
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February 4th, 2010 at 2:52 pm
You should tell him how you feel so you don’t end up hurting yourself again and wind up damaging any further friendship between you two.
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February 4th, 2010 at 3:07 pm
if the chemistry isn’t there… then it isn’t there.
once you meet the man you want to be with you will know.
keep him as a friend though, seems like a real nice guy.
don’t try to be in a relationship that you doubt in the beginning.
when i met my fiance i knew it. the same night we met we started dating and 3 years later i am so happy to be with him. there was a guy that i saw that i knew would take care of me and treat me well. he was also rich. i just didn’t feel the spark, so we stayed friends. i am glad i moved on to find the real love of my life who treats me way better and would do ANYTHING for me.
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February 4th, 2010 at 3:29 pm
Gee, on the surface, he seems to be interested in you and wants to listen to you!!! getting someone, ANYONE, to just listen and actually remember the conversation 2 minutes later is
big in my book.
Is it pure physical attraction?
80% attracted to him?
Sometimes chemistry is latent, you need to
let it develope. If the two of you have it,it will
show itself or not.
Give the two of you a few more dates,see where it leads.
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February 4th, 2010 at 3:37 pm
See where this might lead! he may not be a hunk of burning love, but if he’s sweet and caring and willing to help you through a depression, give him another shot. Jerks are everywhere, but a sweet heart is hard to find.
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February 4th, 2010 at 3:50 pm
I think you should give another chance..
Because everyone must be having another chances , add least 2 ..
But , if it is really really doesn’t work , i think you better tell him that friendship might be the best word to describe your relationship..
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February 4th, 2010 at 3:57 pm
He is what we call in modern society a ‘friend’. You have to be physically attracted to the guy. I am a guy, if i treat my girlfriend really good to the point that i make her a princess, then suddenly she comes up to me and tells me that she is only attracted to me because i am nice……… that like a stab in the back for a guy!!!!!!! Guys lean more on the physical side of the relationship as opposed to girls who lean more on the emotional part of the relationship. THEY LEAN, they don’t completely ignore one part. I am sure you will find your guy, but thats not him.
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i got stabbed in the back once….
February 4th, 2010 at 4:31 pm
If he could accept the fact that he’s a better friend than lover then asking him for a second chance shouldn’t be an issue, that’s if his intentions were genuine..
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February 4th, 2010 at 4:49 pm
diamonds, i tel u, He is ur man.. Go for him baby..
I can assure u, u miss this chance its gone forever..
In this kinda world where every people we meet around are oppurtunists its hard to find people who love us unconditionally.
Just beg him for a chance, if he is really like wat u have explained above,,
Have a wonderful life baby..
Go for it..
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